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You know the tune from Dirty Dancing! Don’t act like you don’t!!
When I was young and we finally got a VCR we had one movie… I wanted Conan… Mom wanted Dirty Dancing. Mom still knows best. The life lessons in that movie are endless.
It wasn’t until years later that I was taught a whole new lesson from the song tittle above.
I was in my early 20’s at a bar, talking with some friends….
At that age I can’t say that Sex is the only thing on a guys mind… But it certainly is toward the top of the list.
I was a late bloomer to say the least but I was always profoundly curious about what makes people successful, in relationships, money, health… everything.
I had a few friends that were incredibly successful( my definition of success then) with women. They didn’t seem any more attractive or confident than most, and i remember asking “How is it that you seem to go home with a different girl every time you go out?”
The answer I received took me a long time to fully comprehend…
He said its all in the Eyes. Its all in the Energy given off and the Eyes tell all.
He pointed out a few girls who were scanning the room half heartedly engaged in conversation with their friends.. looking around the room constantly. That constant repetitive glance about he room says one thing… She believes the best place in the room is somewhere other than where she is… no mater who she is with or where she is standing.. she will always be looking for the bigger better deal..looking for something outside of herself to validate her , pay attention to her, or to distract her from her self. ( BTW Guys do this too)
“If You are not able to go within…. you will surely go without”
These people Men and Women are the ones who wear the winning teams hat or jersey every year…. in psychology of sport the call it… BIRG-ing. Binging In Reflected Glory.
You must realize that You are the One… Be the star of your own movie.
And let me be clear… Above written note is not a tip on how to pick up women…. it is simply advice to all. If you have the belief that anywhere in the world is better than where you stand..then you send a powerful message to the world about what you think of your self. ( Also- I musty say…the dude who told me that is a total loser, once a cool tough guy who manipulated people —now broke and often in trouble with the law, a poor father and husband)
“You cannot not communicate”
So if you feel like you are constantly attracting the wrong people in your life… then you better get real clear about what you honestly believe about yourself…and what messages you are sending to the world about who you are and what you think of yourself.
I dont know the exact statistic….But i was once told that if a Woman is in a physically abusive relationship…there is a 70% plus chance… that she will get into another physically abusive relationship…. he finds her… and she finds him..they communicate in the unspoken language of belief systems and subconscious communication
What have you hungered for … what have you resisted???
“What you resist…persist”
Self belief and a strong Identity are the foundational building blocks of a strong character….. it must start there. You can not build a Castle in the sky upon a weak foundation… and “Castles made of Sand…Drift in the the Sea..Eventually”.
Today and everyday there will be no more powerful conversation in your life that will determine your success…. than the one you have with yourself every- single- second. Every- Single- Day.
We all need someone to lean on from time to time…but know this…there will be a day when everyone is looking to lean on you.
The height of the pinnacle is determined by the breadth of the foundation
The height of the building is determined by the depth of the foundation.
Likewise, The height of the achievements in life that you will aspire to… must be rooted in a strong foundation.
Be Hungry to strengthen yourself, your wisdom, and your character…. let your soul hunger for growth and not your eyes hunger for approval .
See you at the Top my friends.
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